intuition

How Your Intution Can Keep You Out of Prison

 I just heard this story, and it was too good  not to pass on!

“Shari” is an acquaintance of a few years. I like her and I respect her immensely — she’s got an Ivy League PhD in economics, and does strategic planning for one of the Fortune 1000. She’s also spiritual, very perceptive about people — and a lot of fun. She’s got a huge network of friends, colleagues and acquaintances, whom she organizes for picnics and dinner parties.

Apparently it wasn’t always this way. When she was much younger, just finishing grad school, she was married to a guy who was several years older than she, had an Ivy MBA, and was quite the wheeler dealer. They even had some business interests in common.

Their relationship deteriorated for a number of reasons, including her discomfort with how he operated in business. She saw him operating “just this side of the law” and her gut became more and more knotted up. One day she realized that she was worried a US Marshall was going to show up and arrest someone. She listened to her gut, and her worry — and she left, divorcing him soon after.

It’s 15 years later — and she just learned that he’s been found guilty of money laundering/RICO, and is awaiting sentencing.

She listened to her intuition — and it saved her untold amounts of trouble. It just took 15 years for validation. Sometimes you have to wait for that.

Hollis Polk is a personal coach (www.888-4-hollis.com), who has been helping people create lives they love for 15 years, using neurolinguistic & hypnotherapy techniques, decision science, clairvoyance & the common sense learned in 20+ years of business. She is an NLP Master Practitioner, hypnotherapist & has a BSE in engineering from Princeton & a Harvard MBA. She is also a successful real estate broker, investor & business owner.

Those gut feelings? WAAAY more important than you think!

You have to read this (it’s short)! Your gut influences not only things like your immune system, but perhaps things like your personality and ability to learn.
Hollis Polk is a personal coach (www.888-4-hollis.com), who has been helping people create lives they love for 15 years, using neurolinguistic & hypnotherapy techniques, decision science, clairvoyance & the common sense learned in 20+ years of business. She is an NLP Master Practitioner, hypnotherapist & has a BSE in engineering from Princeton & a Harvard MBA. She is also a successful real estate broker, investor & business owner.

Who can you trust?

True confessions time: even with my healthy skepticism, even with all my intuitive abilities, even with my guides (who are a *lot* of help), sometimes I’m not sure if I can trust someone. It’s hardest with people who are completely congruent, that is, they totally believe what they are saying —  they aren’t lying, they’re just wrong.

I do trades with a few people whose abilities & integrity I trust, some for psychic reading types of things, some for more NLP/hypnosis types of things. Some of these are very regular, some are very occasional; some are formal (I do a session for you, then you do a session for me), others are informal, more like conversations where we both bring all of our selves and all of our guides. Some are planned, others are accidental — I have clairvoyant friends whom I’ll call just to chat as friends do, and occasionally those conversations morph into a joint channeling session.

So last week, when I did a trade session with a friend I’ll call Patrick, I had every expectation that things would go well. Our sessions are intended to be joint channeling ones, where each of us brings questions, and all of us answer. Patrick is an engineer by trade, with several patents in his name, trained in several spiritual traditions, so he is a smart, hardworking guy. He has only the best of intentions.

But something was really amiss. Patrick said, before we even started, that if I didn’t do something (I don’t remember what), he couldn’t continue working with me. And he said it in a way that implied I’d be losing out if I didn’t continue to work with him. That should have set off alarm bells. 

Given that this was a joint session, why did it feel like he was teaching me? And that he was not open to learning from me, at least not much. I had this ‘one down’ feeling, like he was somehow better than me.

I know from experience that he tends to be in his ego, that is, on a sort of power trip, and that everything is always ‘not working out’ for him. He’s tried many ways to make extra money to solve a perennial financial problem; all of them seem to end with him fighting with someone, or him being ‘taken’. Since I haven’t looked at most of these situations, I don’t know what really happened, but still, it should be a clue that something’s off.

The problem is, he ‘sees’ some things I ‘see’ — so I tend to expect that everything he ‘sees’, even the stuff I don’t ‘see’ — is right. That’s just not true! No psychic is 100% accurate, no channel is 100% clear. Particularly with channeled information, you always have to filter the information through your own BS detector. (This, by the way, is a standard propaganda tactic — mix the truth with lies, so it becomes more and more difficult to distinguish which is which.) 

More than that, he used his knowledge of my own greatest desires and greatest fears to get me to do what he said his guides told me to do. I’m not sure any of that ‘channeled’ instruction was true — even though I believe he believes it.

So, how do I avoid this in the future? How do you? (And I’m not just talking about spiritual teacher here — the pointers below are just as valid if you are hiring an accountant or a plumber.)

Here’s what to watch out for:

  • You feel coerced in some way — The truth doesn’t need coercion to succeed (Qaddafi needs guns to stay in power, the protesters, who have the moral right on their side will eventually win in any case).
  • Something rings false – Maybe it feels wrong, or sounds wrong, or doesn’t jibe with things of which you are sure. Time to check in with yourself.
  • You are discouraged from thinking/evaluating for yourself — By definition, anyone who says, “Trust me, I’m right” is not to be trusted. Sometimes this is simply the person’s ego talking, and sometimes it is an intention to disempower you, or cheat you. (This last comes from a friend with whom I shared my story — she had a much more toxic experience with a ‘teacher’.)
  • You feel bad about yourself — Spiritual teachings for developed souls should not make you feel bad about yourself. That is the province of religious teachings (hellfire & brimstone) designed for less developed souls, who need clear lines drawn between right and wrong.

I’m going to take my own advice, and not work with Patrick unless/until I can find a way to do it safely. 

Hollis Polk is a personal coach (www.888-4-hollis.com), who has been helping people create lives they love for 15 years, using neurolinguistic & hypnotherapy techniques, decision science, clairvoyance & the common sense learned in 20+ years of business. She is an NLP Master Practitioner, hypnotherapist & has a BSE in engineering from Princeton & a Harvard MBA. She is also a successful real estate broker, investor & business owner.

How do you know what to do?

How do you know what to do? What the right course of action is?

Sometimes your body gives you clues. Here’s what I mean:

My friend, Jenni, like so many people, is unemployed, and has been for over a year. She’s managing by moving in with her elderly parents, and helping to take care of them while she looks for work.

One thing that buoys her spirits is the spiritual course/community she joined for the year. It meets weekly, is reasonably priced, and has helped her maintain a positive attitude. As part of the course, she was required to attend a retreat weekend, to which she readily agreed, though she didn’t know how much it would cost. It turned out to cost $275, which, she said, was more than she’d spent on anything in over a year. She was committed, as it was part of the curriculum, and because she’d given her word, which she takes very seriously. She had an immediate visceral reaction, literally feeling sick to her stomach — and that reaction recurred every time she thought about the retreat. She also found it hard to eat.

Finally, she couldn’t stand the feeling any more, and got up the courage to explain her situation to the group leader. Of course the leader was sympathetic, and asked her what she could afford. She told him $125, to which he readily agreed. While that was still more than she’d spent on anything in the last year, she felt the money was well worth spending. And her digestive distress went away completely!

Here’s another example:

I ask people I talk to casually to call my radio show if they have any relationship questions, because I do need callers, ideally about 5 per show — hint, hint. (Oddly, though, the people who have called in are not the people I’ve asked.) So I asked Ben, whom I met at a party a few weeks ago to call in. He agreed to call that same week, and I was thrilled.

A few hours before the show began, he called to ask if it was okay if he didn’t call in to the show, saying he was under pressure at work.His call surprised me —  I’d forgotten that he’d agreed, and anyway, if I had a dime for each time someone said they’d call and didn’t, well, let’s just say I wouldn’t still be doing client sessions. Of course, I said it was fine if he didn’t call.

Here’s what he told me later: “I felt so much better after you let me off the hook, it was amazing! I had
walked down to my PO Box, and my head was pounding. My blood pressure has been going up and I’m sure this was a new record. The world looked dark. 

“When I make a commitment to someone, it’s cast in stone, but I decided I should at least find out what my commitment meant to you, so I called. When you said it was fine if i didn’t call the show, the day literally got brighter — it was a beautiful day and I had not known that.

“Oh, and my head stopped pounding.”

So here’s the take-away: At a deep level, you know what you need. And since mind/body are one system, your body knows what’s best. If you don’t yet have a well-developed intuition, you can begin by listening to your body — it will guide you to do what you need to generate positive results. 

Hollis Polk is a personal coach (www.888-4-hollis.com), who has been helping people create lives they love for 15 years, using neurolinguistic & hypnotherapy techniques, decision science, clairvoyance & the common sense learned in 20+ years of business. She is an NLP Master Practitioner, hypnotherapist & has a BSE in engineering from Princeton & a Harvard MBA. She is also a successful real estate broker, investor & business owner.

Ignore at Your Own Peril

I reached a major milestone last Thursday, at least major for me — I’ve now completed everything I need to do to be really on top of things, so I can move forward to new projects. I have renewed my CA real estate broker’s license, cleaned out my files, reorganized them and shredded what had to be shredded, caught up on the bookkeeping, cleaned out the garage, overseen a few large real estate maintenance projects, dealt with the death of a beloved cat, and the exit from our home of my stepson. All of this, of course, on top of my usual reading/coaching sessions, and responsibilities to my business and our home. It feels great! 🙂

So when I finished my client work that day, I wanted to celebrate by — okay, I know this doesn’t sound like a celebration, but for me, on a weekday, it is — going grocery shopping. Grocery shopping sounded like heaven! I could stop in at Trader Joe’s and have a snack before I bought the 3 items I needed. I could wander around Costco and window shop before I bought my groceries. I could take my time, because there was nothing I really had to do.

But my sense of duty to my business said, “No, you have to send out your ezine. The main article is written, it will just take a few minutes to do the format changes to send it out, get it out.”

So of course, iContact lost the work I’d already done, and refused to accept changes when I tried to start over. I spent an hour and half on the phone with a techie at iContact, who couldn’t help me, and in the end just filed a bug ticket. (I’m doing someone else’s QA again!) So there went 2 hours — with less to show for it than before I began.

I should have just gone shopping!!

Many years ago, someone (wish I could remember whom) said, “Sometimes God speaks to us through our desires.” Or maybe it’s our guides or angels. Whatever. I should have listened to them last Thursday.

What did I learn? Ignore your guides’ advice at your own peril.

Hollis Polk is a personal coach (www.888-4-hollis.com), who has been helping people create lives they love for 15 years, using neurolinguistic & hypnotherapy techniques, decision science, clairvoyance & the common sense learned in 20+ years of business. She is an NLP Master Practitioner, hypnotherapist & has a BSE in engineering from Princeton & a Harvard MBA. She is also a successful real estate broker, investor & business owner.