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Coincidence or Synchronicity?

Last weekend, I was chatting with a young woman, who is just beginning to open up psychically. She said, “I’m starting to have all these weird coincidences. Does that happen to you?”I answered that I preferred to think of them as synchronicities, and that yes, they happen to me all the time. To me, a coincidence is accidental, and a synchronicity is a manifestation of some deeper level of structure, perhaps related to intention. This is borne out by dictionary definitions (shown at the bottom of this article).

And wouldn’t you know that a synchronicity happened almost immediately? My husband and I were in LA for a benefit concert for a friend’s charitable project, for which my husband had done some publicity. Through a series of misunderstandings, we weren’t left the “all access” passes we’d been promised.

At dinner, we discussed this predicament. We were both prepared to pay for general admission tickets — after all, we’d come all this way. My clear intention, though, was to hang out back stage, or maybe in the VIP area. Here’s what happened:

After dinner, we walked back to our motel, which was 6 long blocks from the theater, in a borderline scary neighborhood, to change our clothes. On our walk, I said that after the concert, I’d like to take a taxi back to the motel, as I didn’t want to walk there in the wee hours of the morning. My husband said he’d rather get a ride from one of the locals we knew who’d be at the concert. That sounded good to me.

We left the motel, intending to walk up to the theater. As we left, we stepped into the street to avoid some ‘action’ on the sidewalk. As we did, an empty taxi pulled up to us. We hadn’t signaled for it at all. We got in, and the driver asked us if we’d called for a cab! When we said no, he said that someone at the motel had called, but had not given a name or room number! I guess it was our cab — we just hadn’t called for it with a telephone.

The taxi whisked us to the theater — remember, it’s only 6 blocks. As we alighted, our friend, the one whose project the concert was supporting, happened to be behind the cordon, talking to those who’d be checking credentials. He said, gesturing at us, “These people are my set up crew.” (He doesn’t really have a set up crew.) And we got our all access passes! No fuss, no hassle.

Had we not taken that cab, we would have arrived 10 minutes later. Our friend would already have been inside, directing the concert’s video people on how to set up his video. And we would have been stuck with the General Admission tickets — more money, a crummier experience. Is this a synchronicity? Or a coincidence?

And before the end of the concert, when we left, the young woman who wondered about coincidences, was leaving, too. She gave us a ride back to our motel. Synchronicity? Or coincidence?

Definitions:

According to Webster’s dictionary, a coincidence is “an accidental and remarkable occurrence of events, ideas, etc. at the same time…”.

According to Wikipedia, “The idea of synchronicity is that the conceptual relationship of minds, defined as the relationship between ideas, is intricately structured in its own logical way and gives rise to relationships that are not causal in nature. These relationships can manifest themselves as simultaneous occurrences that are meaningfully related.”

 

Hollis Polk is a personal coach (www.888-4-hollis.com), who has been helping people create lives they love for 15 years, using neurolinguistic & hypnotherapy techniques, decision science, clairvoyance & the common sense learned in 20+ years of business. She is an NLP Master Practitioner, hypnotherapist & has a BSE in engineering from Princeton & a Harvard MBA. She is also a successful real estate broker, investor & business owner.

Best Psychic by Phone

Okay, it’s not beautiful, but it does describe what I do better than my old one, still in existence.

Here it is:

www.BestPsychicByPhone. com

I’m trying to get it crawled by google! Any suggestions?

Hollis Polk is a personal coach (www.888-4-hollis.com), who has been helping people create lives they love for 15 years, using neurolinguistic & hypnotherapy techniques, decision science, clairvoyance & the common sense learned in 20+ years of business. She is an NLP Master Practitioner, hypnotherapist & has a BSE in engineering from Princeton & a Harvard MBA. She is also a successful real estate broker, investor & business owner.

Are You Asking the Right Question? How to Know & What to Do Instead

Sometimes, when you’re confused about something, when you can’t get clear direction, it’s because you’re asking the wrong question. Here’s what I mean:

Yesterday, I was doing a reading for a long-time client I’ll call Zoe. I’ve seen Zoe through job changes, and a couple of marital separations and reconciliations, but she’s in a pickle now that beats all.

Obviously, since she’s had a couple of marital separations, it’s never been the best of marriages. Though Zoe moved out a couple of times, she always went back to Neil to take care of her 3 daughters, the last of whom recently left the nest. (And we all know how many marriages break up when the last child flies the coop, don’t we?) To make matters worse, Neil contracted a virus a few years ago, that led to huge heart problems, and is now waiting for a new heart. To complicate matters even more, Zoe’s fallen in love with a single coworker — and the feelings are reciprocated. Both of them are simultaneously deliriously in love and horrified because of the situation. Oh, and did I mention that Zoe’s a devout Catholic, so divorce is out of the question?

Zoe’s been calling to talk, to explore what is the right thing to do. Obviously, the ‘right’ thing is to take care of her ailing husband (who has about a 50% chance of surviving), but she is so miserable at home that she can’t shut down the budding relationship. And divorce is even beginning to look like a viable option.

When I read for clients, I pretty much get answers to the questions they’re asking. That is the way they are focusing my attention, and so that is the information that comes through. So if my client asks me, should I leave my husband?, I ask her to clarify what she hopes to get by doing that. Then I give her the probability of getting the result she desires by taking the action she proposes. She decides whether to take the proposed action. (I never tell anyone what to do.) Sometimes it’s obvious — what you propose is highly unlikely to get what you want — and sometimes it’s unclear, a 50/50ish result.

This was the sort of thing we were doing yesterday — and it’s the sort of thing we’ve done before. She seemed to be going around and around the same subject, with the same emotional and thought patterns. But somehow, yesterday, Zoe cried out in anguish, “How the hell did I get here?”

And all of a sudden I ‘got’ that the problem had started very early in the marriage, when Neil, wanting to make Zoe happy, had agreed to move closer to her family. To me, Zoe protested that this made no sense to her as the main problem in her marriage. But it turned out that the move meant taking a lower paying job, which he didn’t like as much as his old one, as well as moving away from his own birth family, to whom he was very close. Though on the surface, everything seemed the same, Neil had never forgiven her for this, nor had he forgiven himself for agreeing to it. He had mentioned his regret (but not his slowly simmering anger) occasionally over the next 25 years, but Zoe had just sort of let that go.

Now that Zoe knew the root cause of their problems, she had something she could do to change things. She could bring it up. She could tell him she appreciated his sacrifice. She could understand and forgive the many small ways he’d been mean to her. She could apologize. She could ask him to forgive her. She could ask him to forgive himself. He may or may not forgive her or himself, but at least she can have more compassion for both of them.

The lesson here is that if you’re not getting a clear solution to a problem, then you’re asking the wrong question. This is especially true of a dilemma, which is a problem with only 2 options for answers. Here are a few questions to ask to get unstuck:

  • What is the deeper nature of this problem?
  • What do I really want?’ (rather than ‘what do I think I can have?’)
  • How did I get here?
  • Does this issue remind me of any other issue I’ve faced? How is it similar? How is it different? 
  • What am I trying to learn from this situation? What is my higher self (or God or the Universe or whatever nominalization you want) trying to teach me? (And there may be more than one lesson.) 
  • What other options are out there?
  • Is this even my lesson — or am I just helping someone else learn?

I’m sure you have questions that can be added to this list. Post them here, or send them to me privately — I’d love to hear them.

Hollis Polk is a personal coach (www.888-4-hollis.com), who has been helping people create lives they love for 15 years, using neurolinguistic & hypnotherapy techniques, decision science, clairvoyance & the common sense learned in 20+ years of business. She is an NLP Master Practitioner, hypnotherapist & has a BSE in engineering from Princeton & a Harvard MBA. She is also a successful real estate broker, investor & business owner.

Why are you doing this REALLY?

Sometimes there is a higher purpose behind what you do, and it’s important to always keep an eye on that. Here’s what I mean:Jini is a single mom of two, living in Marin County, north of San Francisco. She makes a bare bones living as a therapist, and on the side, she fixes houses to sell, which supplements her income. She does a house every few years — after all, it’s not her main work, and she has a teenager and a pre-teen to raise.

She sold a house about a year ago, made some money, moved herself and the kids into a comfortable 3 bedroom rental until she could find another fixer. That took about 6 months, and then it took a few months to negotiate the agreement (short sale, the bank dragged its feet) and close.

The house, originally a vacation cottage, is tiny (2 small bedrooms and 1 bath) and so old that it doesn’t have central heat, not to mention insulation. It’s also missing many of the comforts she’s used to, like closets, a dishwasher and two full baths.

She immediately knew what to do with this house — besides the obvious heat and insulation, it needed an addition to function well — a master bedroom with its own bath, which could sit over the newly enlarged kitchen/family room. She figured she could pay a contractor to do the major construction while she lived in the rental, then move in and do the interior finish and other renovations while living in the house, which, while unpleasant and inconvenient, would save paying rent and carrying costs on the house simultaneously, which she could ill afford.

She didn’t count on the fact that in the hills of Marin, your neighbors can stop an addition if they don’t like it. They may actually prefer something falling down (“character”) to something a little bigger and newer. And of course, this is what happened. ONE neighbor decided that, after asking Jini for all sort of (expensive) concessions on size and siting and materials, to which she reluctantly agreed, he still wasn’t satisfied. He filed an 11th hour complaint at the planning board, which torpedoed her approvals. Thus a drawn out fight at the planning board loomed ahead.

Even worse, she was going to have to move into the tiny house with the ‘evil’ (her word) neighbor. She envisioned this as literally moving into the lions’s den, with danger all around — constantly. She dreaded moving into this house. Her dread was so intense that she’d barely begun packing, despite the fact that she was scheduled to move in three days.

As we talked, I pointed out that she probably wouldn’t see her neighbor all that much. Even if they were going in and out of their houses at the same time, which probably wouldn’t happen very often, their driveways were situated so that they couldn’t actually see each other. And there was only the one ‘evil’ neighbor. Others were pretty cooperative.

As I ‘looked at’ the situation for Jini, I saw her having a big housewarming party — to which she could invite ALL the neighbors, as well as her friends and family. It looked to me like this would not only create community in her new location but also like this would eventually create some sort of healing both for her and the neighbor who’d objected to the addition. It looked like there were many spiritual lessons in the situation — for her, her kids and her neighbor.

Jini agreed with my assessment, and because she saw the spiritual purpose behind moving into the lions’ den, she began to see the possibilities. She could use the garage to store all the things that wouldn’t fit in the tiny house. She could use some rugs that wouldn’t fit on the floors as insulation by tacking them up on the insides of the exterior walls. She could buy some freestanding wardrobes to replace the missing closets. She could make friends with enough neighbors that eventually she’d find a way to the obstructionist neighbor’s heart.

And with renewed energy, she began packing.

Hollis Polk is a personal coach (www.888-4-hollis.com), who has been helping people create lives they love for 15 years, using neurolinguistic & hypnotherapy techniques, decision science, clairvoyance & the common sense learned in 20+ years of business. She is an NLP Master Practitioner, hypnotherapist & has a BSE in engineering from Princeton & a Harvard MBA. She is also a successful real estate broker, investor & business owner.

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