What Can You REALLY Change?
- Leave the situation
- Change the situation
- Change yourself
1) Leave the situation – Taking everything into consideration, is putting up with the situation worse than leaving? I don’t know the caller’s situation, but maybe she has a happy marriage, and her mother-in-law is the one fly in the ointment. Or maybe she has young children with her husband, and mostly, things are okay. In these cases, leaving makes no sense. (I’m guessing this is the worst thing going on in her life, because you don’t call a radio show about #10 on your list of problems.)
2) Change the situation – You can’t change someone else’s mental illness.So that’s out.
3) Change yourself – You are always in charge of your own actions and reactions. That’s the ticket! You can pinpoint specifically what makes the situation hard for you, or exactly what triggers your emotional reactions, and then work with that. There are a million ways to work with your own emotional landscape, from affirmations to keep you pointed in the right direction to hypnotic processes to reshape internal paths away from the quicksands of childhood imprints to anchors to keep you focused in present reality rather than getting sucked into the past.
You may know a few of these tools — you just have to remember to use them! And if you don’t have tools that work for you, call me at 888-4-hollis (888-446-5547)! I can help.